November 19, 2025 Older But Not Wiser?

I turned 70 yesterday.

There was no big party, no confetti or cake, no pile of gifts. That is not what a birthday is to me. It's a milestone that I am so grateful to have enjoyed annually for this long. I just don't crave that kind of attention.

This birthday, for some reason, is just hitting different. Not better, not worse, just...different. 

The good news is this is fodder for my overthinking skills, and may be for a while as I mull this over...and over. When I finally come to a conclusion, I'll be sure to share. I cannot be the only one who may feel this way. Or am I?

In the meantime, I have a few things for which I will not apologize. After all, my filter is completely gone so let's take advantage of that.

I will not apologize for continuing to let my hair grow. I like it. Randy loves it. It's my natural color.

I will not apologize for dressing up whenever I feel like it. It's not a damned competition.

I will not apologize for not wearing makeup. 

I will not apologize for wearing makeup.

I will not apologize for not being thin anymore. I never have been and it's not a good look for me now. Curves are cool. I am healthy just the way I am.

I will not apologize for preferring to stay home. In my pajamas.

Most importantly, I will not apologize for who/what I am. If anyone doesn't like me, I'm good with that; just carry on. it's not my goal to impress.

I will always apologize if I'm in the wrong or at fault. 


That's enough for now. I still don't have an answer to my ambivalent feelings, but I won't give up until I figure it out. ☘

  


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